The Obsession with Making Writing Real

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One thing I have to make clear before I get started is that I’m not saying “realism sucks”. Every genre or style has its time and place. As much as I love fantasy, I’m open to all forms of the genre and I also adore classics/literary/contemporary fiction etc (not to mention the fact I like my historical fiction as realistic as possible). So, let’s just begin by saying yes, realism rocks just as hard as fantasy. Glad we could get that out of the way 😉

What I do mean, however, is that sometimes striving for realism takes over. While glaring errors can take you out of a story, sometimes criticism of contemporaries can get a little nitpicky (like, whether or not a particular school has a netball team or whatever). And I’ve written at length about why I’m happy to suspend my disbelief for fantasy. More recently…

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5 Best Ways To Glow Up, Inside And Out

Before I talk about the steps or advice that I’ll share to glow up I’d firstly like to describe or elaborate the word Glow.

Glow simply means to go from the bottom to the top. It is an incredible transformation that one make from a previous spot. Now I want to share with you some of the tips that personally helped me from bottom to top.

  1. Hydrate Everything!

This ttakes more than 6-8 glasses of water per day- you actually want to have a water rich hydrating diet. Build your meals around veggies and fruits choosing more raw food than cooked. Water-rich salads, vegetables, juicy ripe fruit, smoothies and fresh vegetable juices are great options. Pure water should be your go to beverage though.

2. Take a step out of your comfort zone!

Something that keeps us stuck in a rut and prevent us from having our glow up moment is keeping things the same. You may love to wear black and white everyday and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But surely you have loved a little something different.

But instead of walking past that red sweater or those yellow shoes because you think you can’t pull it off, give it a go. Just taking one baby step out of your norm can start things off.

3. Do something different !

A glow up does not have to be you going from wearing crocs to wearing the latest trends. It can be you going from wearing ponytail daily to wearing a fun braid or dying your hair with another color.

Do something different. If you love latest trends, go for It. But try something that’ll make you unique. A glow up is doing something that’ll make your individuality to shine.

4. Get some new glasses!

Changing uup your glasses is a small step,but if you are hesitant it may be the one you need to go further in your glow up journey. If you have wearing the same glasses from grade school, then it is time for a change.

Go for a cat eye, something colored or rounder.

5. Let go of the negative!

Try not to let the negative thoughts get to you. I know hard it is. You have worked hard to come to yourself,but then yoh get a massive zit or get a mean comment online. I also know it hurts.

But instead of letting that one thing ruin your whole day and outlook, try to let it go. Focus on the positives that occurred on your day and let the negative bits just roll away.

A lot of bad things can happen to you, but you do get to choose how they impact your life

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Eventually, you will come to know

That love is all around you.

Love is everywhere you go.

Love is in the tears you cry and the hug you giveaway.

Love is your smile that brightness a day for another.

Love is the smell of honeysuckle blowing in the breeze.

Even in the darkness of night, the moon & stars shine love down upon you .

Never forget that love is in everything you see !!




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This poem is dedicated to mi sweetest person


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Love Yourself Enough 💋

These words are sometimes taken for granted. But if you look deeply inside them, they are so heavy and deep. But I just want to first explain what is it to love yourself.

Love yourself is to accept yourself in any way, shape or form. To love yourself is to come to terms with those aspects of yourself that you cannot change.

But what does loving yourself enough mean?

It mmeans immunizing yourself with criticism. Believing you’re the best. Having excessively positive but ultimately delusional ideas about what you are rather than realistic knowledge of who you are. It also means seeing yourself as a whole.

Selflove means to have self-respect, a positive self image, and unconditional self acceptance. Needless to say, it doesn’t mean to be arrogant, conceited or thinking that you are better than anyone else. It means having a healthy regard for yourself knowing that you are a worthy human being.

It is important to know that no one perfect. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses and we certainly possess the resources to work on improving ourselves. In order to appreciate yourself it is up to you to discover what makes you unique and to further develop those talents. We have a responsibility to ourselves to do so.

You cannot sit around and wait for approval from others. Work on ACCEPTING yourself sis. You are the only “you” that you have. It is your best interest to be the best you can be. And real talk is until you love yourself enough, you will not be able to love anyone else. You can only love another to the degree that you do to yourself.

Why I Started A YouTube Channel

Yes I finally did it 😅. Why? Mainly because it suits my personality. To break that down, I started the channel because there’s a lot to talk about.

Some of the things I talk about is topics that’ll encourage others, giving tips in common issues, advising on what I think people will gain from also to showcase my talent of creativity when it comes to talking in front of the camera.

Even though I have a blog but I also feel like I need to reach out to those who don’t really like reading. My aim is to at least try to vlog about what I’ll be blogging about, so that those that love reading can benefit just like those that like visual movement can also benefit.

Down below is a link or a video that I shared on my channel. I can’t really get in to details, only you can go check it out 😉.

I really hope you guys can find such videos fruitful in your lives. Even though I’m doing these videos publicly, I’m also learning from them. And I like that.

8 Impressive Health Benefits of Garlic


Garlic is very popular in our country which is essential in most of the Indian dishes and is mostly seen in any Indian kitchen. Its scientific name is Allium sativum which is a part of an onion family.

Image result for garlicHealth benefits of Garlic – There are several health benefits of garlic which are given below

  1. Due to the stimulating properties of garlic, it protects the skin from the effect of free radicals and reduces the depletion of collagen which leads to loss of elasticity in aging skin.  Garlic helps to the skin, protected with infected fungal infections and provides relief from skin ailments including eczema. It is also a useful medication for fungal infections such as athlete’s foot and ringworms.
  2. Due to the antioxidant properties in the garlic, it is used in decrease the cholesterol levels and also helps in regulating blood pressure and blood sugar levels. This decreases the danger…

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No Excuses #Fitness for Extreme Weather

Second Wind Leisure Perspectives

There is no excuse more prevalent than dealing with extreme weather conditions to thwart your plans for physical activity.

“An early-morning walk is a blessing for the whole day.”

Henry David Thoreau

“But it’s too HOT to exercise!”


In the northern hemisphere, today marks the summer solstice, the first day of summer. Here in Northern California, the heat was a predictable 90 degrees Fahrenheit (32 Celsius).

For my southern hemisphere friends who are enjoying enduring COLD temps now, the same principles of using temperature as an excuse not to exercise still apply. See links near the end of this post.

Today I am sharing excerpts from my upcoming work-in-progress book No Excuses Fitness as they relate to exercising in hot or cold weather, from my chapter on external barriers.

How often do we make the time to get some well-needed exercise or physical activity only to be thwarted…

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Love has no color

The word LOVE has a deep meaningful effect in our lives. Love is beautiful, love is kind, love is blind and love is sharing. Love is great interest and pleasure in something. We can define LOVE how ever we want but we all have a common denominator that connects us in it.

Love doesn’t discriminate. It shouldn’t discriminate us because we breath the same air and enjoy the same sun. Now there’s a reason on why I wrote this. I honestly feel like there are people out there who still see or differentiate love based on color, whether it’s friends, teachers, business partners or your lover. At this day and age in my opinion I feel like discrimination should stay in the 1960s. Right now we live in a world or generation where by you get to do whatever you want to do,you pursue anything you want to be.

If you come to me and start being mean to other people’s color I’ll look at you like you’re weird and dumb. It just shows immaturity the fact that you can’t accept other colors. I mean really we don’t have a choice especially in South Africa. We have a variety of languages and I find that super awesome. I feel like we’re blessed and we should use that opportunity.

In my opinion you really are missing out if you don’t explore. I also understand that everyone is attracted to a different type of person and expects something concrete from that person. Bottom line is- love is love. So go and love with all your heart and connect because love doesn’t discriminate.

I know people that have outgoing personalities and but because of their backgrounds, friends and family they hold back. They would rather lose a good friendship or a potential lifetime partner just because they’re scared of of what others may say, forgetting that those people are living their lives. At the end of the day your happiness depends on you. Shout out to interracial couples, friends of different color and business partners 😉👏👏👏.

It’s Not You, It’s Me: A Breakup Reading List


A late bloomer as far as relationships go, my first encounter with heartbreak came from the track. It was junior year. The district meet: all big Texas sky and girls next to me adjusting hair ties and heat waves shimmering ahead. At that point in my life, I had devoted myself entirely to running. I had skipped every pool party and social gathering for three years to chisel myself into a faster time, a college scholarship, or something I couldn’t quite put my finger on — something that would finally indicate to me I had succeeded. I had won handily the year before, and everyone in the stands anticipated I’d win again. But when the gun went off, and I eased into a pace that should have felt easy given the rigor of my training, my legs stiffened. With each of the eight laps, I grew slower. Girls passed and…

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